I have been really wanting to do a blog post on confidence for a while because it’s a topic I feel is sometimes just swept under the rug a little. One of my first posts was all about body confidence but c’mon that is nearly two years ago ~ it doesn’t count. I guarantee everyone you know has a bit of self-doubt – even if they are the loudest most confident type of people, because it is natural that everyone does.
I can lack confidence a lot, and its something that occurs everyday, but I really want to strive to change that. It depends on who I am around, because when I am with my friends I am a different person to if I was put in a position where I feel uncomfortable. Trying to change your confidence is a big deal. It’s not that easy. I panic and get really anxious when I do things that are out of the norm – if I am out late etc… – I just struggle sometimes to go with the flow.
And don’t even get me started on the body confidence. This is something that I don’t think I will ever truly get over but I have been going to the gym once of twice a week since the start of September, and however much I complain about it I do actually enjoy it and feel good for going. I have scars, I have stretch marks, I don’t have a perfect bikini bod but I am young and there are more important things I could be thinking about or worrying about. I don’t think the McDonalds trips do me any good… but oh well YOLO. It’s v cliché but you get one body and you should embrace it for what it is, even if others judge because if they do then at the end of the day they are not worth it. But then you also have to respect that and know your limit.
My fashion makes me confident and its one way I can really express myself without worrying. I remember when I first got my dungarees from TopShop and they weren’t very common at the time, and it could be seen as a bit odd to wear them, but I loved them. I would wear them and // wouldn’t give a monkeys \\ about who thought what about them. As a fashion student, I do pride myself in my clothes and trying to keep up with the trends, but I also understand that everyone has their own style and that’s fine too.
Last Tuesday I did something that wasn’t like me at all. I met up with some friends of my boyf’s and usually I wouldn’t put myself through that whole anxious riddled situation – but I am glad that my boy pushed me towards doing something like that because I enjoyed it and I over came my fear.
My new job, working behind a bar, has helped MASSIVELY. Talking to strangers, and meeting new people has made me better at talking to people I don’t know and dealing with confrontation – which before I would shy away from. I am now not afraid to sometimes voice my opinion… can be a blessing and a curse but there is nothing wrong with gaining a bit of confidence.
There is no real methods as such I have used to become more confident, but my advice is to surround yourself with the right people. people who care, make you laugh, strive for good things in life. Make sure you try to stick to deadlines you have ~ whether it’s for college, school, work or personal ones. Also take time for yourself, and treat yourself every now and then because everyone needs a little more self-appreciation in their life.
I can’t wait until I am carefree completely – obvs within reason as I need to have boundaries – but being able to do things without having that bit of anxiety on my shoulders will be a dream.
WHAT DO YOU THINK? Can you relate? Do you struggle with confidence or being carefree? What advice can you give?
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